Father in Law with hearing aids? He takes them out to talk to us?

ah heck, just don’t talk to him anymore. then when he asks why you won’t speak to him, just say that you got tired of having to yell.

Stop repeating yourself. Say it once. If he wants to start hearing you he will put his hearing aids in. Don’t yell to communicate with him though… He doesn’t like it. If he doesn’t like you to yell but he likes to hear what you have to say, it is a bit of a paradox. Don’t yell because he doesn’t like it and he will decide if he needs his hearing aids from that point.

If it is a matter of him not wanting to wear them because there are other sounds he doesn’t want to hear… Unfortunately there are no selective hearing aids and this is the technology he’s working with.

While we naturally want to handle a situation like this with as much sensitivity as possible, sometimes the solutions are pretty cut and dry and you shouldn’t loose sight of them. As blunt as it sounds, think about the only real options available. 1) Wear the hearing aid or 2) Have people raise their voice and yell around him. There’s no other option to ponder.

Perhaps you could just write him a letter to convey your thoughts around this in a sensitive manner. Not only are you writing the letter for best communication due to hearing loss, but because it’s a great way to articulate yourself in the best possible way the first time around… When you start the letter justify it as a means of communication because of you, not because of him… Explain that you feel you are better thought out on paper and that you don’t want to create any misunderstandings. Don’t ever say in the letter that you are writing it because he can’t hear you.

Good luck and I hope that there are no issues surrounding wearing glasses at home

When he talks to you, tell him you have problems hearing him. And tell him you can’t talk, that you need talk aids to talk to him, write this in a piece of paper and show it to him. Tell him if he wants to talk to you he has to put the hearing aids.

An issue like this is definitely a sensitive subject. It’s hard when elder’s have issues with sight and sound. My grandfather is the same way, refuses to wear hearing aids. Has your sister-in-law tried talking to him? Hearing aids are a big adjustment, especially if he did recently just get them, and to think maybe he was trying to hear without them for longer then you think? To finally be able to hear like that, wow.. not to mention the stupid things jabbed in your ears all the time. He probably has some pride and is upset when you ask him to use them, it makes him feel less efficient I’m sure… The best thing honestly that you can do is sit down and talk with him about the importance of us or maybe have your sister in law, the auiologist do it… If he keeps taking them in and out, it may even end up making his ears strain and make the hearing worse later down the road?
Hope this helps

I think you should talk to him in person “when he is wearing his hearing aids” and tell him that it is frustrating..no its not wrong to get annoyed, i would be anyway..
he should at least try to make the adjustment with his hearing aids to communitcate w the family not just for your sake but his as well..

Hearing aids amplify ALL sounds. Even those we don’t want to hear. Your Father-in-law is trying to block out all the back round noise and hear only what is important to him when he is home. And that is you. He only wants to hear his family talking and not the TV or dog or the phone ringing. Understand this and learn to talk louder and directly at him. If it is important enough to be heard make sure everyone in attendance can hear you, even your father-in-law.

They are his ears, he is an adult. Just because he is living with you doesn’t mean you can force him to wear them or out of the house (seriously that is WAY overboard). Though my father-in-law does not live with us, we are very close. He only wears his to church, he is retired…you just have to learn to respect him and what he feels comfortable with.

A few tips:
Make sure you are facing him and looking at him
make sure he is facing and looking at you
Do not shout…it only makes the noise more groveled
Simply speak clearing and slightly louder than you normally would.
Cut out other noises if possible (turn the car radio off, turn running water off, step into another room to talk if others are watching TV, playing a game, etc.).

EDIT- You are asking for advice, yet it sounds like you have already made up your mind.

Whether you know it or not …hearing aids are great but there is a age old problem with them. I don`t think they have refined. One thing is the people wearing them are used to hardly hearing a whisper. Ok understand this. Normal voices alone are loud. Top that off with people being used to speaking LOUDLY towards that individual with having to repeat themselves frequently. You have two things that are hard to change and adjust to. Ok … another thing is when a person puts those hearing aids on. ALL noise comes in at an EQUAL level. The TV, the RADIO, your voices, the voices of others in the distance, kids playing. Sometimes it is like too much commotion at once. Understand it isn`t easy for the wearer to get accustomed to. From years of almost silence or whispers. It takes help from all those around them. They also have to learn to adjust the things to suit the situation. At work the father-in-law may have them turned off and back on when someone comes close to chat. You have no clue. Bear with him. Put yourself in his shoes. Let someone Scream at you turn the TV to LOUD and the Radio UP and Let the Kids bang away and understand…why he removes his hearing aids. I`m not trying to be mean. I just wish you could put yourself in his place and understand. Good Luck.

try to remember the long range goal and outcome. years from now you can look back at this time and realize that you have grown wiser and stronger because of this. or, you can have regret that you must live with. also, i believe you will inherit some beautiful karma. pray.